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Purity of Heart

Theology of the Body Insight

“Blessed are the pure of heart, for they shall see God.” Matthew 5:8

To be pure of heart means to be able to love another without self-interest; to set aside our own self-centred desires in order to love as a pure and unselfish gift of self. This purity of heart we see in people like Mother Teresa of Calcutta who loved the people of the street purely for themselves. She had no desire to use them or manipulate them for her own benefit.

Jesus tells us that when our hearts are pure and we are able to love unselfishly, we will see God; we will see him in the body of the one we love. How true this was of Mother Teresa who saw every suffering person she met as Jesus present with her.

For couples, being pure of heart by loving our spouse or fiancé as an unselfish and generous gift of self, we are able to see and experience God present in him or her. Rather than seeing only the limited human view of the external, bodily dimension, we see our loved one as God does, with mercy and delight. When we see with the eyes of God, we are able to see both the body and the soul. We see our loved one in all her beauty and tenderness, in all his strength and majesty.

“Purity of heart is the precondition of the vision of God. Even now, it enables us to see according to God, to accept others as “neighbours”; it lets us perceive the human body – ours and our neighbours – as a temple of the Holy Spirit, a manifestation of divine beauty.” Catechism of the Catholic Church, n2519.

Francine & Byron Pirola

Francine & Byron Pirola are the co-founders and principal authors of the SmartLoving series. They are passionate about living Catholic marriage to the full and helping couples reach their marital potential. They have been married since 1988 and have five children, and a growing number of grandchildren. Their articles may be reproduced for non commercial purposes with appropriate acknowledgement and back links. For Media Enquiries Please Contact us here

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14 Comments

  1. Alyn Salaria on October 12, 2025 at 6:09 am

    Jesus tells us that when our hearts are pure and we are able to love unselfishly, we will see God; we will see him in the body of the one we love. – A good reflection.

  2. Michael Kordish on August 19, 2025 at 7:11 pm

    Very interesting. Loved it.

  3. Katy Pazanin on June 14, 2025 at 11:48 am

    So insightful .

  4. Tochukwu Alagba on December 23, 2024 at 11:52 pm

    Purity of heart is the precondition of the vision of God. Even now, it enables us to see according to God, to accept others as “neighbours”; it lets us perceive the human body – ours and our neighbours – as a temple of the Holy Spirit, a manifestation of divine beauty.” Catechism of the Catholic Church

  5. HCarlson on August 11, 2024 at 7:46 am

    We have made an effort to affirm our love and appreciation for each other on a daily basis. This lesson helped us to better understand the importance of affirmation.

  6. Marissa Leuer on June 2, 2024 at 5:50 pm

    I will be doing a lot of self reflecting. We are learning so much and this last exercise got me emotional. Beautiful.

  7. Agnes Wong on January 26, 2024 at 1:30 am

    This lesson provides us with many thoughtful insights to our marital and spiritual life.

  8. Charlie Cauchi on August 11, 2023 at 8:07 pm

    We have such busy lives that we do not verbally appreciate our spouse at the end of each day.
    This exercise reminds us of the importance of doing this.

  9. Jana Hamilton on March 1, 2023 at 8:39 pm

    Wow it takes 5 positive affirmations to cancel 1 negative?! ! I feel so sorry for my husband !

  10. ricirene2022 on June 18, 2022 at 8:06 am

    True love’s objective is making your partner happy about himself, his ideals, his aspirations, the things he cares for all the time!

    • Isabella Achdjian on September 25, 2025 at 11:17 am

      so great to learn about this

  11. Henry Voges on June 8, 2022 at 6:05 am

    This particular lesson and exercise gave us an insight into each other’s perennial opinions. In retrospect, we were able to discuss this particular lesson at length, putting us in touch with each other’s steady diet of affirmation!

    • Mary Ann Blando on February 12, 2023 at 6:29 pm

      We realise our positive attributes from our partner by words of affirmation and daily appreciation,

  12. Wendy Stanislas on November 14, 2021 at 4:40 am

    I found this prayer so beautiful!!!powerful!!
    When we see the eyes of god !!! Powerful god

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