On a Mission to Love – Members Content
Every couple wants to avoid divorce and get along without too many fights. A successful marriage however, is much more than just this; it is a life-long union in which both spouses flourish as individuals and enjoy a deep and passionate intimacy. Thinking only in terms of ‘avoiding divorce’ is very limited. It’s rather like a student who only aims to pass: if you miss the mark by even a little, you are already in trouble; you’re likely to fail.
The Church has a different proposition: make marriage your vocation, your whole life’s work. Convince this man that he is loved and appreciated; convince this woman that she is understood and cherished. That’s the job description. Actually, it is more like a mission, and if you approach it with a pro-active mindset, you can take it on with confidence and enthusiasm. You can dedicate all of your talents and intellect to achieving your goal.
The Church asks you to put your whole self into this vocation, as a total gift of self-donation. Fifty-fifty doesn’t really work because it leads you to hold back and to keep score. Self-donation implies that you choose it and that you do so freely. This is being pro-active. You don’t have to wait for the other to lead. You each take responsibility for your mission to love.
Your potential to love your whole life long is all in your ‘will’: you choose it, and you are freer than you think to make choices that will be good for you. It is not difficult or mysterious once you clarify the mission, clear the obstacles, identify your resources and make the most of them.
A vocation is a life choice to which God calls us. He is always eager to send the graces we need to get the job done. So, in marriage, we can pray for passion, enthusiasm, generosity or gratitude and we are assured of God’s help. God is as ready to provide what we need as a mother whose teenager asks for the vacuum cleaner!
It is the Lord’s deepest desire that we love one another as God has loved us. The Father sends us to each other to bring about his purposes, especially when we draw out each other’s goodness and affirm each other’s virtue.
It is always difficult to see ourselves objectively or in perspective. In fact, we cannot even see ourselves physically without a mirror. Likewise we best see ourselves most clearly through the eyes of those who love us.
For our part, if we keep our eyes focused on the other’s masculine or feminine virtue we will not only be drawn to them, but we will feel blessed to be theirs. It will cultivate gratitude and generosity.
The reality is that if you are looking for faults in each other, you will surely find them. Equally so, if you are looking for virtue you will find that too. The more you affirm the good that you see the more that good will be drawn out, and the more you will feel wealthy in love.
The Church has great ambition for your marriage! In choosing to marry in the Catholic Church, you are choosing to make marriage your mission.
Perfect for engaged or soon-to-be-married couples who want to grow together and prepare for a happy, faith-filled marriage.
It makes more stronger relationship between us and is very important
very interesting
This is very insightful and informative. We are happy to e doing this marriage courses.
Wonderful Explanation, its really important have the understanding and be supportive when it requires
Insightful and powerful
I totally agree.
I have the realisation of the phrase ” Convince this man that he is loved and appreciated; convince this woman that she is understood and cherished. ” This is so true!
love this
This is just my first and very informative to both of us.
It was very informative and interesting
I think this is very good course that every couple should enroll as all of this informations are essential knowledge about how to create very strong relationship for life between spouses
I, really appreciate the great effort of Francine & Byron Pirola who started such a helpful worldwide project. Blessings for your support. Thank you for helping us to prepare a better marriage future.
This course is really helpful and interesting for me and my fiancé to make us more faithful and love each other more.
Very informative, thank you.
very informative video
A very enjoyable and informative read. Ryan & Asil.
Very educative
Making marriage a mission has always been a true mission that’ll keep our marriage forever strong and wealthy
Thanks for the amazing information
Great insight and informative
This is quite an informative and inspiring session.
very informative and is part of my practice now
Vital mission to keep relationships growing and pondering. KR, Nesh & JP
Motivating and encouraging
Very Helpful and informative.
Well thought out and instructive.
interesting and informative. exciting information
We enjoyed reading this and it provided valuable insight and thought on the importance of a loving and successful relationship.
This is well presented, enlightening -I love the words used!
I found this interesting to read. We have already developed a mission in our relationship and this is a reminder for us both to take responsibility by loving and appreciating one another feeling understood and cherished as well as overcoming the challenges we experience in life.
It’s left me with a lot of wonderful things to think about. Thank you so much.
For anybody reading this comment, I wish you infinite love and happiness.
Thanks for information
We are really enjoying the course and learning for your experience.
Love the way you say to look for the good and you will find and in turn and the more you will find worthy in love. Such a lovely way to develop a positive loving marriage.
Thank you for explanation and useful information. This helps strength our relationship.
We loved reading this, it was very informative
We enjoyed this , it was very insightful.
It was very informative, reflective and easy to understand.
Very informative
Insightful and very practical
Very insightful and helpful
So far we have enjoyed the content and discussion questions.
IT IS quite interesting and very insightful
Very insightful thank you
It deepened the knowledge of our mission as married couple
Much appreciated information.
A good example
This is so enlightening and we enjoyed answering the questions together.
Thank you for this platform. Simple and straight to the point
Very insightful read
interesting and informative thanks
The teaching of balancing work and marriage is a great lesson in not losing sight of what is important to marriage.
lovely listening to you guys
It’s a lovely true
This lesson was very helpful and it was nice to remember some of the details of our relationship at the beginning and what we have to look forward for the rest of our life.
You describe a beautiful approach to marriage and the foundational elements that need to be maintained for longevity; love appreciation and respect.
Very insightful and positive read.
This explanation of marriage as a mission is amazing! We are excited to be on this journey. Thank you
Very powerful first lesson. Made my partner and I open up a lot.
Now, I’m excited to go through the course.
Very educative…
Very interesting article. What stood out for me is not setting yourself up for failure, you should set yourself up for success. A positive mindset is key for not only your partner but also yourself through many aspects of life together.
Yes – it’s a simple idea but powerful!
a very good read.
very informative
This course definitely explains the catholic definition of marriage and how to achieve marriage as mission. A great start and I look forward to the rest of the course. Thank you so much for aiding our marriage preparations.
Very spiritual and enlightening first session
It is very interesting course
It is a very interesting module to start. Helped to know about Catholic marriage is a vocation call that partners need to keep life long.
So interesting, what a great idea to do this course!
This reading couldn’t have come at a more perfect time. It truly put things into perspective for us.
The story and explanation is great! We love each other as God has loved us. Amen!
its always best to go all in , and let God lead….
So true. It is so easy to find fault with each other but often difficult to praise each other
really interesting , thank you .
Great and informative read!
Thank you it was s very insightful and thought provoking read
very insightful and thought provoking – thank you
this was a good read
This reading was very insightful. One thing that stuck with us … “if you look for virtue you will find it.”
Well explained, and very easy to understand.,
Very easy to understand and very informative . Thank you
Very informative, and really makes you think what bases as a strong marriage.
Something that stayed with me- “The more you affirm the good that you see the more that good will be drawn out, and the more you will feel wealthy in love.” Very true!
The reality is that if you are looking for faults in each other, you will surely find them. Equally so, if you are looking for virtue you will find that too. The more you affirm the good that you see the more that good will be drawn out, and the more you will feel wealthy in love.
This is very true! It is important to see the person as he/she is to avoid wrong perceptions, but I agree that the good is always greater than the faults.
We started off very negative life together isnt a misson its a joy… But sloely we started to understand that at our lowest points we might need to think differently… Be steonger on our lifes misson believe in what we have. So yes an amazing eye opener very realistic. Thank you.
what a lovey read very informative
This was very informative and helpful thank you!
“The reality is that if you are looking for faults in each other, you will surely find them.”, so insightful. Thank you for sharing this.
Thank you for this information. It was insightful
A very interesting read.
Thank you for amazing explanation of marriage as mission
It makes more stronger relationship between us.
It was very informative and interesting