Healing Emotional Injuries – Member Content
January 21, 2015/
If you have been emotionally injured in anyway, you can use this activity to process your experience. Full instructions are available on the PDF handout.
Healing Process
1. Pray
2. Reflect
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- Gratitude
- Strongest Emotion (L.I.F.E.)
- Your Desire
3. Watch the Forgiveness Film
(Break Through)
4. Connect
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- Unclutter
- Emotional Communion
- Forgive
The Forgiveness Film (Break Through)
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Forgiveness is a powerful tool for a happy marriage.
Forgiveness is a choice; a choice to let go of our resentment against the other.
Refusing to forgive allows our emotional injuries to hold us captive.
Unresolved hurts can lead one to overreact. Forgiveness brings total freedom.
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great content
Great tips on forgiveness this is something both me and my partner struggle with.
I think it is incredibly insensitive to bring up rape and the possibility of finding joy in it. It is incredibly inappropriate and there are far better, less hurtful examples. I would strongly encourage anyone who has been assaulted to please seek professional help and disregard such callous comments.
Thanks Felicity for your feedback and we agree that professional support can be a vital part of recovery in situations of trauma. For some resources, please visit http://www.temp-stg.smartloving.org/sos.
Obviously, it would ever be our intention to be insensitive but we do think that you have misinterpreted the text. The point is that good can come of any circumstance and that this process of seeking and acknowledging the good within our circumstances is an important part of recovery and psycho-emotional resilience.
In the three examples given in the handout, the joy comes not from the instance of trauma, but from a consequence that follows. In the case of a child conceived in rape, many mothers testify that the child was an important part of their healing. This does not in any way condone the heinous crime of sexual assault. Other examples are also given, including childhood sickness and a disruptive relocation. All three of these are common experiences and therefore, we believe, are relevant examples.
If you would like to explore this further Felicity, please reach out via info@temp-stg.smartloving.org
I think scripture gives many examples of how a person is grieviously wounded/betrayed/assaulted but through God’s grace (and with some time/distance/counselling from the trauma) they can reflect and make some good out of the circumstance.
An example that comes to mind is Joseph in the Old Testament.
Joseph’s brothers sold him into slavery due to jealousy (because their Father loved Joseph the most).
Joseph could accurately interpret dreams which led him to being second in charge to Pharoah.
Joseph foretells that there would be seven years of famine – therefore advised Pharoah to store food for the entire country during the years of plenty which ended up saving the entire population of Egypt and his entire family when they came begging for food.
Joseph said to his brothers: And now do not be distressed or angry with yourselves because you sold me here, for God sent me before you to preserve life.
What is scripture telling us? I think it is telling us that good can come even out of the most wretched of circumstances or sins against us, (God does not condone the sin but he journeys with any victim of sin and is close to the brokenhearted), in hindsight we can see how God can use a terrible circumstance and bring some good about it.
Another more modern example of this is this amazing family who have turned their grief at losing 4 of their children into a National campaign of forgiveness.
https://www.abc.net.au/news/2021-01-31/parents-launch-i4give-day-annoversary-oatlands-crash/13106662