How to Help a Marriage in Trouble
Over our years as a married couple we’ve had numerous occasions when people have approached us about their troubled marriage. It hasn’t always been in the context of being the facilitators at the marriage seminar either – sometimes it’s just a friend looking for support or a family member needing a sounding board. What we’ve…
Read MoreMaking the most of single life
Many people see single life as the opportunity to have some fun and ‘live it up’ before they ‘settle down’ to marriage. In fact, some see it as vital to do so – they argue that failing to ‘experience life’ a bit before marriage will lead them to be restless in the marriage, full of…
Read MoreAvoiding the Divorce Flu
A new study has documented what counsellors have observed for years: divorce is contagious. Just like a virus, divorce spreads among social networks and influences marriages among the divorcing couple’s friends, family and work colleagues. For example, got a divorced sibling? Your chances of divorcing go up by 22%. A divorced friend? Up by 147%.…
Read MoreKnow What You Want
Part 3 of It Takes One to Tango Perhaps you’ve heard the saying: Failure to plan is a plan to fail. So many people fail to experience the fullness of their ambitions in all sorts of areas such as health, friendships, career etc. simply because they fail to plan. Without a plan, we are like a…
Read MoreDo Something Different
Part 5 of It Takes One to Tango Too often people don’t think or act ‘sanely’ when it comes to their marriage problems. Picture this common scenario: a wife is frustrated that her husband doesn’t help more around the house. She nags and badgers him but it doesn’t inspire him to step up and be…
Read MorePassion and domesticity
One of the greatest challenges couples face in our contemporary age is the presumption of sexual excitement. When the romance wanes, marriages are at risk – but what’s a couple to do when passion is in decline? We’re all in favour of a vibrant and passionate sex life for couples however it’s not always easy to…
Read MoreMercy Gospel Reflection: Jul 17
Gospel Reflections for Married Couples 17 July – 16th Sunday in Ordinary Time In this week’s Gospel, we hear the challenging story of Martha and Mary. Many married couples can equate to Martha’s experience. While our spouse just wants to do something enjoyable, or play with the kids, the words echoing in our minds are “can’t…
Read MoreKnot Yet! #5: Responsibility Phobia
What comes first, maturity or the responsibility? In the world of adultescence, the absence of the necessity to be responsible, delays maturity. Most of us look back at adolesence and shiver – it’s a tough time developmentally when the young person is reaching for independence but doesn’t quite have the mental resources to cope with adulthood. Many…
Read MoreMercy Gospel Reflection: Jul 10
Gospel Reflections for Married Couples 10 July – 15th Sunday in Ordinary Time In this week’s Gospel, we hear Jesus’s parable of the Good Samaritan in response to the lawyer’s question, “Who is my neighbour?” Take sometime today to reflect on these words. It can be easy to forget that our spouse is also our “neighbour.”…
Read MoreMercy Gospel Reflection: Jul 3
Gospel Reflections for Married Couples 3 July – 14th Sunday in Ordinary Time In this week’s Gospel, Jesus sends forth the seventy-two disciples, in pairs, to proclaim the Kingdom of God. God has also given you and your spouse to one another as a pair, to bear witness to God’s love. How can you and your…
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