The Disciplined Pursuit of Less

In a Stanford Business School talk, author Greg McKeown reflects on what holds capable, driven people from breaking through to the next level. He says that the answer to that question, surprisingly, is success. According to Greg, when executive teams focus on a few things, it leads to success. But success breeds more opportunities and…

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A Marriage to Remember

My mother, Pam White, has had a full life. In her 67 years she has raised three children, enjoyed a rewarding career as a social worker and been a devoted partner to my father, Ed. But as she puts it, “There’s just one little glitch”. In 2009, at  age of 61, she was told that she had…

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Sleeping with a different woman every night

Married life is many things but it is never boring! When we are talking about marriage to high school students invariably some guy at the back of the room asks me as the husband “but doesn’t it get boring sleeping with the same women every night?”.  In today’s confused understanding of sexuality it’s perhaps not…

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My Many Marriages

We all understand that our marriages go through their ups and downs, but we often don’t appreciate that they also go through fundamental changes over the years. We have come to realise that we have actually had several marriages already in our 26 years together. For example, there was the ‘newlywed marriage’ where we were…

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How Porn Kills Great Sex in Marriage

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According to Sam Black of Covenant Eyes, there are four fundamental ways that pornography undermines marital sex. Contrary to expectations, porn won’t make you a better lover, it won’t spice things up, it certainly won’t help you deepen your understanding of God’s plan for your sex life. He explains how porn hurts a good sex…

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Conscious Uncoupling Debunked

When Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin announced their intention to ‘consciously uncouple’ last month, the twitter-sphere went crazy. Not only is a Hollywood bust up big news, everyone wanted to know what ‘conscious uncoupling’ was. The LA counsellor who hosts a website with the name found herself inundated with calls and her website crashing. Apparently,…

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Save a marriage for $200

In July, the Federal Government’s pilot ‘relationship voucher scheme’ comes into effect. The trial period has budgeted for 100,000 couples to receive a $200 voucher towards the cost of a relationship education class run by approved providers. One has to ask: Why, with so many cutbacks in the budget, would the government initiate a $20…

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Serial Dating or Smart Dating?

Why is it that as a society we only get serious about saving a marriage when it is under threat of ending? What might happen if we paid as much attention to the front end of the marriage, at the second or third date? Persuing Romance The reality is that most people will marry someone…

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Partner Selection

Making a Good Partner Choice

How do you know what to look for in a romantic partner? One young woman liked to tell us she had three simple criteria for a boyfriend: good massages, could fix her car and curly hair! We’re sure she was joking but at least she was thinking about it. Dr John Van Epp is a…

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